We are probably nothing if not for our emotions. But every guy out here reading this line would probably not agree with me and find this silly. After all, guys aren’t known to be emotional or rather not do a PDA of their emotions.
But before you hold off, I am not talking about your ‘real’ emotional side. I am writing about the emotions we carry with us throughout the day, every day. It could be anything from a smile, a bigggggggg ‘Hi’, a ‘how are you?’ question, and even a ‘hug’.
Well, fortunately you are not alone. We all do it, day in day out. Including myself! You know it at this very moment that you have done it already quite a few times since the day started. Have we ever wondered how often our ‘Hi’ is not how a ‘Hi’ is supposed to be? Is it jolly, chirpy, fun, genuine? Mostly not, right! But then we could argue about the fact that not every ‘Hi’ is supposed to be the way I have described in my previous statement. But the million dollar question is how much do we try? The irony is that a lot of times after our habitual ‘Hi’ is over and the person hi’ed to has walked past us, we can’t wait to criticize the guy. Why say the ‘hi’ in the first place then?
Sure, it would look super non-social if we don’t do it and we could may be perceived as rude and arrogant but are we doing anything better to our own self by being the person that we shouldn’t be. Would you want to be hi’ed to and then bitched about a few seconds later?
I think I have a serious problem. No, I have a serious ailment. And the ailment is that I don’t understand the regular question that we are all asked at least 10 times a day. The three word question is ‘how are you?’. WTF! Ask yourself if you actually care about every person to whom you ask this question. Are we really concerned? But then we ‘have’ to ask it because others ask this of us. I can bet on it with all my money (playing safe because I don’t have much of it) that 99.999999999% of the people would respond in a super happy tone with the response ‘I am good’. What else do you expect? Do you think people would pour their heart out to you and tell you the disaster that’s storming out their life? Do you do it? Do you share your life with strangers or acquaintances?
And what’s up with hugging? It has certainly become so mechanical these days that we just know the act and we do it and get it over with. Sounds like something else, right! Don’t let your imagination get so vivid, come back friend. But really, we hug every one we meet even if we don’t know the person well enough just because s/he is accompanied by a friend or a colleague etc. Isn’t a hug supposed to be special? I am not saying one should only hug his/her partner/spouse/lover (or whatever you want to call him/her). I personally think a hug means a lot to me. A hug from a dear friend (btw I hate the word ‘dear’), a sibling, a parent or someone close to you could actually make you believe that the world is still a better place, that you are not alone and that you have people in this dark world who love you immensely. And you are willing to give that ‘hug’ feel in such a monotonous manner just to anyone. Let me put a disclaimer here. I am not against free hugs, in fact I love them! But fake hug. Not for me. Ask yourself if you feel light and happy after hugging so many people throughout the course of a day. If not, why do it at all?
We ‘like’ so many photos and comments circulating across social networking sites that ask us to be who we are and be ‘real’. Shouldn’t we at least act real a few days a week, a month, a year?
To hug is to love because when you truly hug, you give a piece of yourself.