MBA after Marriage OR before Marriage

[kgkid]

If you want to do an MBA after marriage then you better be sure about your spouse. Make them aware about post-marriage aspirations before applying for tying the knot (sounds like an application to a bschool.. )

My 2 cents.

[kgkid]

Originally Posted by vikram_k51

The part in bold is utter crap.No one's gonna Share ur dream and help u achieve it.It's U who shud be working for it.If u do that...u will automatically qualify for 'Right' partners.

Well mine is a story that supports blueZapp. It is not utter crap. At your age, even i had strong opinion but time has tested every single opinion I had and proved me wrong. That is called "experience."

[puhrince]

kgkid made some good points..myself, did want to do my MBA 2 years back but postponed to get married and enjoy marriage for a while..i have seen many get married and immediately pursue an MBA - then he/she is busy while spouse is bored, or even worse (which is a new trend) - spouse is working in a different city..you need to involve your spouse before making a decision to study full time

benefits of marriage - support at home, could be financial,emotional, help at home
cons - distraction, can lead to lesser focus on studying

[Barricuda]

Originally Posted by puhrince

i have seen many get married and immediately pursue an MBA -

I am about to fall under this category this year . I'll probably be in a position to give more inputs to this thread around this time next year .

All the best to everyone with their MBA plans(all the more if a wedding decision is involved along with that )

[rahulchic]

First of all, this topic od discussion is really important, and some pieces of advice sometimes help save a lot of rough days.

A majority of guys are of the age that either we get married in between the mba program - seems toublesome and tp be avoided, or they marry after bagging a job in 2nd year, or just after passing out, in the gap between joining and studies.

One friend of mine married after bagginf a job. His spouse was mba too. But he got posted in a remote location, as part of his training period. In between as the girl couldn't get an mba job in a remote location, resided and worked in a city. The problems of distance and lack of support, turned out to them having a divorse.

The best case is to marry after joining the job after mba. This is particularly true, if both of the couple are working.

[manishnagpal]

hi Guys found this on BW
"
I finished my MBA this past summer, and after nearly 3 years of hard, hard work I can honestly say that having my wife by my side was the best way to get thru the program. Fortunately she has a professional career of her own. We did not see much of each other considering I lived my life in the library or in the business school. She was there for me in many ways whether it was to listen to me bitch and moan, or to have a hot meal ready at midnight.
Without her help I am not sure I would have handled the stress of B-School as well as I did. As an older student, I was better prepared for the rigors, but the stress was different. The good thing for our relationship was the fact that she already earned her masters degree. She understood the pitfalls and the requirements.
I suggest having a serious discussion with your partner before heading into a program. Talk to others who have already been thru the programs. Get a good feel for the stressors related to the programs. Yes there are many!!!!! Late nights, days out of town, difficult projects, classmates who just don't put forth the effort, and so on and so on. If you find out about these problems before you start, you both will better understand how to manage them during your tenure.
Good luck!!!"
Writer codenamed Acerun

[blue_zzap]

hey manish, thank you for this post. this the exactly the point i was trying to make. It certainly isnt impossible find good things in life. MBA is a very demanding course, but with the right partner, marriage will not prove to be a stumbling block. yes, it is extremely important to discuss your plans and aspirations with your spouse before you embark on something like this. i still stand by the point i made earlier. marriage doesnt have to be the end of the road.

[uguleri]

Well it is really a good thread...

Being married, I would like to give some inputs..and would quote Cracked-it for making my point:

Briefly: till now marriage has helped me a lot in making my decisions and hope it continues to do so.

I wished to do MBA since I was in Third year of B. Tech. In that college masti etc.. I was a bit slow in preparations… Got selected in a good company that visited for campus and this was sufficient to derail my MBA preps. Joined that company.. had money in hand and again friends around..so enjoyed that time too…After an year I started thinking of MBA again..wanted to do from foreign uni..but did not have enough resources..so started preparing for CAT…Again the masti of bachelor life and responsibilities in professional life diverted my attention and could not prepare for that… then I got married and told my wife about my wish to do MBA…like me, she is also a software engineer..we gave a thought and I started preparing for GMAT I was targeting ISB..my wife helped me a lot in my preparations..particularly in EnglishJ..i got a decent score..before applying to ISB I talked to one of my friends in ISB..he told me that ISB is not different from any other Indian school…he told me that if u hav money then go for an International school..if you cannot afford studying out side India then better go for other programs like those from SP Jain..IIMs MDI XLRI etc…need not spend 15 lakhs in ISB..now here my marriage helped me in making my decision….when I was bechalor, I could not have thought of doing MBA from a foreign uni…but now i can think..my wife can sponsor my MBA…so now I am applying to foreign unis only (which i always wished).

Originally Posted by cracked-it

Another thing to consider - as a bachelor you can have virtually unrestricted party life and have lots of fun while doing your MBA. Additionally, if you are young and belong to the casanova type - schools like LBS provide you abundant opportunities for interracial dating.

When I was bachelor, these were the things that diverted my attention from my wish to do MBA. Now being married, I have a reason to restrict my self from this stuffJ…this would probably help me concentrating on my career aspirations…and now all my parties and outings will be for the sole purpose of networking and career progress..

I hope I made my point…J

Cheers

[pagalguy]

Wow, I actually have insights on this thing even though I am not married. More so because a lot of my friends are .. It is tough. Not sure about India, but the BW article linked by Susie to a large extent signifies what happens here.

There are very many people who don't fall into that trap, but most of them do. It is very easy to lose focus at a bschool and err..well..sadly all bschoolers always get together and well..discuss.. bschooling. Its tough on the partners.

But for every such story there are also enough people I know who pull it off in style due to supporting partners. Heck there is a husband and wife couple attending W and they have two you kids and I hardly see happier people around.

But all of this does make me feel rather lucky. I hope to get hitched after I get out of this place and I sincerely hope she would not be looking to get an MBA degree after getting married. It would be ..err..insane to be around the environs of school again. ever.

[murtu_18]

Special Thanks to 'Manish Nagpal' and 'Uguleri' for valuable insight sharing.
It added very important paremeters in a long list i was considering. And it really bosted my moral..

Requests you to share other experience also...like summer training experience, which school you went..how was adjestment in new enviro perticularly for spouce....you went first and then the spouce joined afterward or you worked out some other better way?

Thanks again..