Give me your Blood Report!

[vineetmanghani]

Should blood tests be made mandatory before marriage? (link)

it is very important for me to exchange blood reports with my to-be partner. And for those who talk about trust as an issue, I can't trust anyone to take my life for a ride. When people may cheat you even after spending years together, how can you believe that the person with whom you haven't started living together is not hiding some dark secret of his life? And I also want to make it clear that here past relationships is not what we are talking about. May be that person never had a relationship but what if he is contaminated because of some other reasons like infected needles?

So what is the take of the young generation on this? Would you potentially risk your life by trusting your loved one or would you rather be sure before you tie the knot?

Say you meet a person, you hit it off, you connect at all levels, emotionally, mentally, physically, you love spending time with each other, you talk about your hopes and your dreams and your aspirations, you share your fears and apprehensions, you come to a stage where you feel life without each other is not worth living. So, taking the logical route, you decide to get married. Taking logic a bit further, you decide to get a blood report done. And, that special someone turns out to be infected with some deadly disease (do you care how the person got infected?). What do you do? Say "Ok it's been nice knowing you, goodbye, take care now"?

Maybe we should exchange blood reports before we talk or get to know anyone. Maybe we should just carry our blood reports around just like our driving licences or PAN cards or social security cards....maybe that'll reduce some of the cynicism we see today....

[karishmag]

Somehow this issue seems a little too hard to digest for me...maybe its a personal opinion that can be as biased as can get...but i really dont think a blood test should be mandatory...but for that matter i dont beleive in arranged marriages either...i believe that marriage is a decision that one takes after knowing someone for years on end...and in knowing someone intimately, blood tests and other "insurances" as i may put it, do not hold any meaning...but again its a matter of personal choice...if the said people havent got a problem with a blood test then theres nothing wrong with it...in arranged marriages on the other hand it becomes important for such issues to be considered...graha nakshatras aside it definitely becomes important for the bride and groom to get these tests done as you dont know each other well enough...

Somehow this post seems utterly useless.....

Kari

[carelessperfectionist]

I completely agree.........

Blood tets should be made mandatory before marriage.

[ggt]

I think that one of the reasons that the blood tests should be undertaken by a prospective couple is to find out about the chances of the genetically carried diseases. If both the partners are carriers for a disease the chances of their progeny carrying the disease increases. I don't know if it is possible to make the blood tests mandatory but a knowledgeable couple can take it as a sort of precaution.

[srikrishnan]

my heart says no and my head says yes. almost always, i go with my heart cos head can be deceptive.

[donB]

unfortunately ive seen enuff cases where things have gone horribly wrong. Better to volunteer a blood test and expect one in turn. And this is for a love marriage and as for arranged marriage...no question about it. If my parents wanna see a horoscope fine by me...i wanna see the damn blood test report.

[coolcataspirant]

Ya it's better to be safe rather than be sorry .. And aneeways if u dont have anything 2 hide, why shud u object to a blood test !!! I certainly wud be shocked if i found out after marriage that my wife is HIV +ve and vice versa ..



--Karthik

[CatZapped]

Maybe we should exchange blood reports before we talk or get to know anyone. Maybe we should just carry our blood reports around just like our driving licences or PAN cards or social security cards....maybe that'll reduce some of the cynicism we see today

this is a pretty extreme situation.

But i agree with the need to have a blood test before the marriage. If, god forbid, either you or your partner is dectected with some sort of discease it need not be the case of tata goodbye....but it would help in doing the required thing now and potencially save the person's life.

Remember the more information you have....the more informed you are to make decisions. Whatever the decision you take!

C.Z.

[buck_was]

Ahem...

It surely is one issue which IMHO will gain importance, considering the alarming rate at which promiscuity (n ignorance/carelessness abt protective measures) is on the rise... I wont be surprised if it becomes the norm to carry certificates for the same by the next generation!

Two important facets involved are - no issues in getting tested wen one's sure of his/her past... secondly, as someone already pointed out, its better to be safe than feel sorry at a stage wen there's little that can be done in the +ve direction...

I guess, a poll shud be added on this thread, to get a better idea of where the general opinion lies... moreover, as a rule, poll responses r bound to be higher than posted responses, simply 'cos few only bother to drop in a line...

[ckartik]

I completely second vineet coz in this world neething may happen.Though it is a kinda belittle the auspicious marriage,yet certain things shd b clarified.
It will only give a sense of satisfaction 4 both the ends