Give me your Blood Report!

**uRmad** · 14-06-2005, 12:36 AM

You are in a relation and you finally decided to commit the cardinal sin...err..i mean marriage

...Both of you go to your friendly neighborhood gene tester and give him swabs of dna (these days, you cud actually buy these DIY kits off the internet !!) ....you find out the chances of some rare kinda disease are very high among your progeny if the two were to marry...what dya do??

Dump your partner

Yes, there will be people who find logic in that...and there will be people who will be completely against ANY sort of genetic policing...And thats the debate plaguing gene research these days....

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Originally Posted by buck_was

I guess, a poll shud be added on this thread, to get a better idea of where the general opinion lies... moreover, as a rule, poll responses r bound to be higher than posted responses, simply 'cos few only bother to drop in a line...

Done

Cheers

ps: Shouldn't it be DNA test as opposed to blood test??

pps: A very faintly related, but neverthless major project, can be found here

vineetmanghani · 15-06-2005, 11:38 AM

Let me put this question to the board:

Would you be willing to spend your life with someone who is infected with some deadly or incurable disease if you loved that person enough? Would you be willing to make compromises so that you can be with the person you love? Are we, as a society mature enough to be able to look beyond a person's past mistakes or accidents?

maddevil · 15-06-2005, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by vineetmanghani

Let me put this question to the board:

Would you be willing to spend your life with someone who is infected with some deadly or incurable disease if you loved that person enough? Would you be willing to make compromises so that you can be with the person you love? Are we, as a society mature enough to be able to look beyond a person's past mistakes or accidents?

thats the acid test......but if u truly love someone u would want to spend ur life with that person no matter what and try and get the person out of the grip of the deadly disease. one thing that will have to be compromised is physical love, but true love goes beyond physical love so anyone in true love will stand by his/her partner in such circumstances. and it is in these circumstances that the person afffected needs love and care.

And i too agree like many others that a blood test is a must before marriage.

D.M.

diva_2005 · 15-06-2005, 01:49 PM

u know what? i personaaly dnt have ne opinions on this matter, but wud like to share sumthing wid u ppl. a relative of mine was in a relation for 4years b4 n later thre marriage ws fixed. few days b4 the marriage-day, they went to a doc to getthre blood tests conducted.(juzz like tat) n then they found out tat her beau is HIV+.. but he isnt suffering frm AIDs, meanz virus is thre in his body, but the disease isn't. then it ws concluded tat once he had a surgery wen he ws a kid n he had blood transfusion.. so may frm tre only he got the infection..now the big quest is wt hapned to the couple? well they still got married, coz tey wre totally in "LOVE"

n they r living happily on medicines coz nw both of thn r HIV+, bt not suffering fm AIDS. infct, they hv even adopted a child.. so it meanz tat if u r having a love marriage, dnt get ur blood testd n if u do, dnt dump ur partner.. bt if its arranged marriage, then definately do( if u possibly can!!)

BTW, my gynaec told me tat ppl also cum for fertility tests b4 marriage!! how weird!!

amitkr · 15-06-2005, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by diva_2005

u know what? i personaaly dnt have ne opinions on this matter, but wud like to share sumthing wid u ppl. a relative of mine was in a relation for 4years b4 n later thre marriage ws fixed. few days b4 the marriage-day, they went to a doc to getthre blood tests conducted.(juzz like tat) n then they found out tat her beau is HIV+.. but he isnt suffering frm AIDs, meanz virus is thre in his body, but the disease isn't. then it ws concluded tat once he had a surgery wen he ws a kid n he had blood transfusion.. so may frm tre only he got the infection..now the big quest is wt hapned to the couple? well they still got married, coz tey wre totally in "LOVE"

n they r living happily on medicines coz nw both of thn r HIV+, bt not suffering fm AIDS. infct, they hv even adopted a child..

Very brave and committed girl i must say. I personally will never marry someone who is HIV+ and get infected myself just becoz i was in LOVE. But ya, thats my personal take on the matter. Infact I will not let a girl marry me even if she LOVES me like hell, in case i come to know i m HIV+. Marrying a person i beleive is not the only way to show r love and commitment for some one u truly love.

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Originally Posted by diva_2005

so it meanz tat if u r having a love marriage, dnt get ur blood testd n if u do, dnt dump ur partner.. bt if its arranged marriage, then definately do( if u possibly can!!)

Its not dumping ur partner. Everyone has the right to plan his/her future in the best possible manner. After all this is one life we have got. (dont beleive in poornjanam

). And if someone thinks that its not intelligent to have a life partner who is infected with a disease which can affect there relationship in future, his/her decision must be appreciated. Relationships after all are circumstantial and circumstances can change anytime.

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Originally Posted by diva_2005

BTW, my gynaec told me tat ppl also cum for fertility tests b4 marriage!! how weird!!

Whats weird abt that. When u say that in arrange marriage definately go for blood test then why not go for fertility test also so that u dont have any issues in ur married life. If medical advancements has created an environment wherein we can best choose our life partner, then whats the harm in using these facilities. After all the best life partner is the one who is both EMOTIONALLY and physically compatible with u.

diva_2005 · 15-06-2005, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by amitkr

Its not dumping ur partner. Everyone has the right to plan his/her future in the best possible manner. After all this is one life we have got. (dont beleive in poornjanam

). And if someone thinks that its not intelligent to have a life partner who is infected with a disease which can affect there relationship in future, his/her decision must be appreciated. Relationships after all are circumstantial and circumstances can change anytime.

dnt feel like agreeing wid u. if i m in love with a person, i shud b wid him thru thick n thin. if he is suffering frm such mentaln physical trauma, then why shud i staay aloof, specially wen its nt his fault.. practicality isone thing, bt if i face the samesituation, even i wud do the same.. may b coz girlz r more senti..

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Originally Posted by amitkr

Whats weird abt that. When u say that in arrange marriage definately go for blood test then why not go for fertility test also so that u dont have any issues in ur married life. If medical advancements has created an environment wherein we can best choose our life partner, then whats the harm in using these facilities. After all the best life partner is the one who is both EMOTIONALLY and physically compatible with u.

fertility test in arrange marriage?? no probs.. go for it.. bt again, if u r in a relation, u wud juzz dump ur parner if he/she can't produce babies? isn't tat weird.. if u dnt think so, then no comments.. u urself understand wt i m trying to convey..

amitkr · 15-06-2005, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by diva_2005

.. u urself understand wt i m trying to convey..

ya i very well understand thats why in the very beginning i mentioned ARRANGED MARRIAGE.

Cheers
Amit

**Oxymoron** · 15-06-2005, 04:52 PM

mmm...this is quite an interesting thread and a very important topic to ponder about....with sexual promiscuity at it's peak there is always a risk factor involved....so how much is "Love" worth it? This is in a way analogous to the battle between "faith" and "rationality". On one hand you have the romanticized idea of love (for want of a better phrase..) and on the other hand you have the bare realities.
So what do I personally feel about it? Well blood test must be made mandatory....and leave the decision obviously to the concerned couple what they want to do with it !! It is the most sensible and pragmatic decision to take keeping in mind the progeny too. Wish ppl would take a sensible stand on this and not over dramatize the issue!

Girish...!

diva_2005 · 15-06-2005, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Oxymoron

Wish ppl would take a sensible stand on this and not over dramatize the issue!

Girish...!

helloo?? tell me frankly.. is thre any "pun intended" towards me??

**Oxymoron** · 15-06-2005, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by diva_2005

helloo?? tell me frankly.. is thre any "pun intended" towards me??

Ah! So I have been caught in flagrante delicto!

Well you cant blame a punster for trying his stunts....well infact this was my eleventh attempt at punning to get across.....I tried the first ten times to get across..but "no pun in ten did!"

Let me assure you Diva this is the first time I am being credited for a pun which was never intended.... :P But I like the way you think!:P Not many ppl get the "pun" nowadays!

guess it has to start right from home..talk abt having no "home""s""pun" advantage! :P

Ah well before I hijack this thread with "pun"y details let us get back on track with the discussion.....

Girish...!