[ashish asopa]

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Hey everybody, today I found an interesting topic to discuss on and I really had a heated discussion over this with my friends.

“Is Sex an Integral part of Love”

I believe that sex has always been an integral part of love making, but we cant say it a lust, coz this is a requirement and I believe that there can be no denial of the above statement.

• Not loving anyone and just having sex is lust, but doing it when ur in love is the right thing. In India we have a tendency to treat this kinda attitude as an unscrupulous one.
• Loving anybody and not having sex is again impossible, since this can never happen unless something which is “tacit” happens.
• Just having sex and changing the partners is no love but if u commit to marry then its justifiable.

Having in consideration the above three points we can say that yes, Sex is and Integral part of love making and we can never separate them coz they go hand in hand and if ur treating both these things as two different entities than probably –
1.Ur a reserved or very conventional person or
2.Ur are an unscrupulous person seeking only materialistic pleasures.

It wud be really interesting to have this discussion in the age of Modern India( Not “Western India since there they change partners so frequently) but having certain limits to our language.

Ashish

[dtrump]

love is a superset of the physical ,emotional and spiritual. sex is only a part of it. if their is unconditional love between two partners,sex will be an act of tremendous euphoria at every level of human conciousness.however if their is no emotional connection , sex will merely take care of the physical pleasure,it will never transcend beyond tht.

[gaurav200x]

ok, my views..... Please note that these are my views and may or may not be true for u....

Well it depends on how u take sex.. I mean it can be love or lust and sometimes it can be hard for a person to draw a line between the two. I think sex is an integral part of love... when u know u r with ur true love and then there's nothing wrong in uniting with it mentally and physically.

Sex shouldn't be held as a taboo if done with a single person. Its not just about two bodies in heat, rather its the fusion of two souls into one. I am not sure whether everyone would agree with me or not.. but this is my philosophy and i believe in it.

Another thing which one must remember is, sex can be enjoyed with anyone. But when enjoyed with ur true love... u can feel the essence... which is beyond lust, hunger or perversion.... which is a feeling, u would have experienced never before..!!

[dhruvv]

sex is as much a part of luv and imp in luv as luv is imp for sex....

[akhil]

Love is caring attitude. You want to share your happiness, sadness, views, ideas with other person. You enjoy that person company and emotional chemistry is superb. In the love process, both partners need to adjust to set up a emotional chemistry. Every relationship should start with love

Then after emotional satisfaction comes sex and lust. Lust is needed to do sex and attain physical satisfaction which is important part in relationship. In Bible, sex with whom you love is not regarded as sin but lust without love is regarded as sin.

Some indviduals gets attracted just because of physical appearances (lust), some gets attracted just because of the thought process and emotional satisfaction (love), and most of them gets attracted because of both physical appearance (lust) + emotional (love).

You must have read matrimonial ads. Most of ads will use the last option. Smart /beautiful looking boy/girl with perfect blend of modern and traditional values. The first part in my view is lust focussing on personality and the second part is love/emotional chemistry. Both of them mixed together create a beautiful life with maximum love of all forms

Cheers,

[nakul05]

Not a rule, not ruled out either

[rmbt]

Yes, sex is very much integral part of Love....But there is a difference between Men & women perspective for both.
As, some famous psycologist puts it: "Men give love to obtain Sex, whereas women have sex to obtain Men's love". So, sex is important in a relationship.But ultimatley it comes down to personal choice, as whether to have it before marriage or not!!
And when u in love it is not called sex but lovemaking.

[soumyadut]

It is definitely an integral part of love.Gone are the days(if there were any)when sex was a nothing more than a marrital routine,a norm which everyone has to follow for the sake of society and family tree,now people who are in love,have sex,and it might turn out,they go on to marry different persons later.So even ephemeral love is accompanied by sex.Whether it is correct or not is debatable,but I feel sex completes the beautiful feeling/experience called love in the most perfect way.Love is trust,at least to me,and what better way to prove that you trust your partner than to have sex,it's the ultimate test.But it's also necessary to have safe sex and ensure a better future for both the individuals

[grondmaster]

Originally Posted by soumyadut

It is definitely an integral part of love.Gone are the days(if there were any)when sex was a nothing more than a marrital routine,a norm which everyone has to follow for the sake of society and family tree,now people who are in love,have sex,and it might turn out,they go on to marry different persons later.So even ephemeral love is accompanied by sex.Whether it is correct or not is debatable,but I feel sex completes the beautiful feeling/experience called love in the most perfect way.Love is trust,at least to me,and what better way to prove that you trust your partner than to have sex,it's the ultimate test.But it's also necessary to have safe sex and ensure a better future for both the individuals

Please read the date of the last post. you've bumped a two year old thread...

Regards,
Grondmaster