Would you mind marrying a non-virgin man or a woman????

[Uptowngal]

Thanks Life Hedger!!!

[ameya.bhagwat]

my personal views are : it doesnt matter if u r a virgin...but only if u r honest to let u r partner know about it!..a relationship is built upon trust and if u are not building the very base of a relationship, then it will most definitely crash!...The point is if a person has had a physical relationship in his/her past, then he/she need to ask oneself whether it was just for fun/pleasure or was it truely out of love... we have heard stories of one night stands...I am totally against ONE NIGHT STANDS...just to satisfy ur carnal desires u cant go on sleeping around with every other person. COming back to the point i wud say if u had a physical relationship in the past which did not work out for some reasons, and if u r honest enough to confess it to u r future partner then i feel there shud be no problems with accepting the fact for both the partners. I feel if u really love a person u will any which ways tell every thing about u r past to the person...atleast i wud expect that i know each and everything about the girl i am planning to spend my life with!

[namrata_handa]

a really interesting and a controversial topic to start with for a newbie..but my say is dat it really doesn't matter if ur partner is a virgin or not..coz many a times women do lose their virginity w/o s**..so just takin a decision to marry a person coz dat one is a virgin or not is crap..no wonder its truly said dat 'all dat glitters aint gold'..and moreover its the honesty and committment dat truly counts in a relation..many a times people do learn from their past experiences(good or bad)..so be happy of the fact dat ur partner is an xperienced mate ..be happy wid dat and njoi life..but sincerely its outrageous to decide for a marriage on this virginity basis...!good topic by the way!

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[Kamikaze44]

Hmmm... I guess whether virginity matters or not is a relative thing.....For me it matters, not that just my Better half shd be a virgin (although i admit its hell difficult to find it out ... but i guess honesty and trust plays a part here) , but even for me.......its absolutely important to keep my Virginity "intact" till my meet my better half ......

Originally Posted by sanket

Good to see some bold and unconventional threads here.
Sure u will find many good ppl around but how do u judge them on a simcat or an aimcat thread...lol

[LIFE HEDGER]

....read somewhere ...virginity as being defined lack of oppurtunity........"

................generalised nonsense.............!!



##all... have nonwaranted right to get opinionated illogically and nonrealistically....let it be.........


##there are girls ....and then there are girls........................!!!

##then we can say..........some are wise and some otherwise....!!

##define the scope of r eyeballs and braincells..........and feel tissues n we will find beauty in diversity..............!!

## virginity is as much a function of 'that thing' as is it of mind and heart..!!

## character and heath of virginty is a fine line defined by ..........whether and if the engagement is ...........to have casual *** or the girl 'makes' love to ??.......

##if a man perceives and understands the implicative feelings involved in both.........then the decision is easy and invites little incongruence of thought process....!!

##.............neways ......my self styled principles and sure anyone is invited to agree to disagree..!!


thanks.......
life hedger

[Neo2000]

Originally Posted by Uptowngal

Virginity is a dying breed and I believe losin it is just another way of exploring ur own self as long as you dont overdo things...as long as you stick to ur core values,i find it ok....I would definitely prefer marrying a non-virgin man....

Uptowngal is beginnin to remind a lot of an ex(?) Puy Senorita Bonita.

As I once told an ex, everythin was well said by the BackStreet Boys

I dont care who you are
Where you from
Whatever you did
As long as you love Me

But yeah,honesty is possible only when trust is there-- so if she can trust me to tell me, then Great!! But if not, then I'm at fault to not be able to get her to trust me to be comfortable enough to tell me.

So really, for me, the question is irrelevant. If its true Love, I really dont care

[goldberg23684]

why use *** for sex?

[iwillmakeit]

sorry double post.

[iwillmakeit]

Okay here are my view:

Virginity is important in my view. I think it is reflection of a sense of committment to some extent. How committed is one to one's decisions and how much one thinks before making a decision.

I think before one gets into a physical relationship, he/she should or does spend some time with his/her patner. Know him/her, have a relationship for some time , understand likes and dislikes, habbits, etc. and if one thinks that he/she is his/her soulmate then go for marraige and physical relationship. If we think we are mature adults, then we should be able to take a mature decision.

I think if it's a informed decision then chances of it's failure are minimal. And in case it fails then one must be honest to his/her partner about this and leave it to him/her to decide whether he/she wants to marry or not.

Just contributed my 2 cents and those who think I am convention are open to criticise.

cheers
Iwillmakeit