[kanishk sarkar]

Originally Posted by sahilgoyal

I hope u read these lines in the post

"I don't believe that there is any harm if girl's parents give her something for betterment of her life, if they WANT to....Not being in pressure!!
Forcibly taking dowry should be seriously n bitterly condemned"

No one is for dowry here ... all are against it!!

Sahil thanks for showing the quoted text. here i would like to bring forth a point.

The custom of dowry basically started with girls family giving away gifts to the boys family. But with passage of time, this became compulsory for the girl's family to give away dowry and also the same was now being asked by the boy's family.

I totally disagree with constantines viewpoint that parents ofa girl should give away dowry as per their wish.

Rather they should stop giving it altogether and also we the Next Generation should stop asking orgiving dowry

[Pokhi_Fokhi]

Originally Posted by sahilgoyal

I hope u read these lines in the post

"I don't believe that there is any harm if girl's parents give her something for betterment of her life, if they WANT to....Not being in pressure!!
Forcibly taking dowry should be seriously n bitterly condemned"

No one is for dowry here ... all are against it!!

The reason of burden and expenses that he gave, were ridiculous.
It means as if given willingly u will take it becoz u consider the maintenance cost to be a burden.

Problem with indians is that everybody is against dowry as well as bribes, but when given willingly, most of them are ready to accept it!

[sahilgoyal]

Originally Posted by Pokhi_Fokhi

The reason of burden and expenses that he gave, were ridiculous.
It means as if given willingly u will take it becoz u consider the maintenance cost to be a burden.

Problem with indians is that everybody is against dowry as well as bribes, but when given willingly, most of them are ready to accept it!

One agrees to take it willingly not because its a mantainence cost .. how can a piece of jewellery buy you food and clothes . Its gonna be worn by the girl herself. Same with Sari's and other stuff that parents give to show there love and care for their child. Whats wrong in this.

Of course giving a Car or a house or cash etc. is incorrect but if some stuff specifically given for the girl to use .. then whats wrong with that.

[amitnsitian]

Originally Posted by kanishk sarkar

The custom of dowry basically started with girls family giving away gifts to the boys family. But with passage of time, this became compulsory for the girl's family to give away dowry and also the same was now being asked by the boy's family.

I totally disagree with constantines viewpoint that parents ofa girl should give away dowry as per their wish.

Rather they should stop giving it altogether and also we the Next Generation should stop asking orgiving dowry

u r right abt the origin of dowry. but it is NOT compulsory to give dowry.

most of the times, it is the girls parents who give money in form of FDs etc for a secure future of the girl even if the boys family is totally against it

[Great_II]

Ahan Giving Dowry!!!Again after my intial gyaan on Macro Economicsa and Aggregate Demand.
What Exactly is Dowry?
Is it even the "Wedding Ceremoy/Party" then both the bride and groom give it(dowry)!!!Also what about the Groom's parents giving some gifts would it be part of "maledhan????"...
Without using the word BS its just the Greed thats it!!! 74 more remaining

[puneet_gandhi]

Dowry..wat i feel is that evrybdy wud say no to dowry on the face of it but wen it cmes to us.... many of us gonna expect it.. may b v not gonna ask for it but yes v expect it and accept it....with all due respect to all the communities.. v hv sm where actually there is an auction for the grooms... deals like i will spend this much on marriage nd give this much to d family...nd then there r proper rates for an engineer,doctor,MBA,IAS..smtimes goin to d extent of 1 crore...v have made mockery of d once gr8 ritual....
Gandhi

[kanishk sarkar]

Originally Posted by Pokhi_Fokhi

The reason of burden and expenses that he gave, were ridiculous.
It means as if given willingly u will take it becoz u consider the maintenance cost to be a burden.

Problem with indians is that everybody is against dowry as well as bribes, but when given willingly, most of them are ready to accept it!

Hi Pokhi_Fokhi

Please dont get me wrong. I understand what a girls family faces while giving a dowry. But at the same time you must also take into account the fact that a lot is expected from the groom as well. This ultimately adds to the pressure on the groom. At the same time mygrooms take leverage of the situation aand ask for high dowries.

It should also be noted that in any situation, the husband is looked at first to solve any problem whether its monetory or family dispute overlooking the fact that the women in the family are equally competent to do so.

Finally all i would like to say that for i dont consider women as burden.

Women are considered burden by certain Male Chauvinistic People and who live in an illusiary world that women are weak

I hope this points are good enough to clear my stand to you

With Regards

Kanishk

[kanishk sarkar]

Originally Posted by amitnsitian

u r right abt the origin of dowry. but it is NOT compulsory to give dowry.

most of the times, it is the girls parents who give money in form of FDs etc for a secure future of the girl even if the boys family is totally against it

See holding responsible the girls family is not fair.

We should always remember that one needs two hands to clap.

If the boy's family is against any form of gifts whether its jewellery or FD's but the girl's family is insisting on giving it to them, in that case it is better to call off the marriage.

And this has happened in actual in our own country.

[nex]

Interesting discussion. As DG said in the start of the thread, dowry can be interpreted as compensation for the girl's share in the paternal property that she is giving up. Moreover, a friend gave me this perspective. The husband will be inheriting property from his parents but his wife will also be enjoying that. Isn't that also a kind of "dowry" ??

What I don't understand is, why we are bent upon looking things from "tera-mera" point of view. Marriage means sharing. Its not a business partnership or something.

Asking for dowry is a strict no-no for me. Can't really understand how a well-educated person with even a little bit of self-esteem can stoop to that level.

[amitnsitian]

Originally Posted by kanishk sarkar

See holding responsible the girls family is not fair.

We should always remember that one needs two hands to clap.

If the boy's family is against any form of gifts whether its jewellery or FD's but the girl's family is insisting on giving it to them, in that case it is better to call off the marriage.

And this has happened in actual in our own country.

u got me wrong mate !

i am ot blaming any one side.

what i am trying to say the girls family wants to gift the daughter at the time of marriage...

so, there is no label to those items except dowry.

p.s.FDs are mot of the times in joint name of girl and boy