Inspiring Stories

[diablorulez]

Originally Posted by CATamorphosis

@ diablo, I have gone through that thread. It is about ppl who choose to take a path less travelled. It is abt ppl who have not taken up the conventional job after MBA but ventured into something new. Slightly bent towards entrepreneurship.

Well, venturing into something new might always seem exciting but need not always be inspiring. It might very well be inspirational for ppl on the verge of completing their MBA but I don't think aspirants who currently want to be crack CAT and other entrance exams would want to think that far.

The basic purpose for creation of this thread was that ppl would get a platform to discuss about interesting inspiring articles/personalities and how it brought about a CHANGE in their outlook.

Plz go thru the first post in the thread to get a better idea abt the purpose of this thread creation.

I still feel this thread shouldn't be diluted.

What say mods??

Cheers!

well i do not intend to start any kind of altercation. but i felt thats inspiring at least to me. It takes guts to do that.. it inspires me to have faith in me .have that courage to take risk
anyways as thread holder if u want to make it that way..ur wish


anyways no need to bring on mods here buddy If u want report the posts and get it deleted or snipped.

cheers

p.s. my last post on this topic. I would reply only to PM if anyone wants to discuss about the same

[CATamorphosis]

Power of Positive Talk by Abdul kalam

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, itcame to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn’t realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy’s mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear theleaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad’s voice over the wind yell, “Bart, Hold on tightly.” So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy’s mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, “Tammy, don’t fall!” And Tammy did fall.


My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.


This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can’t visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that.For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn’t get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, “Don’t drop it!” Naturally, I dropped the ball.


My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper “self-talk.” They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn’t. I’ll never make it pro, but I’m now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.


Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, “Okay, try to drop the pencil.” Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, “You weren’t paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again.” Most peoplethen pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made.


If you tell your brain you will “give it a try,” you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a “no try” rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won’t. Either they will be at the party or they won’t. I’m brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don’t knowthey are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words “I’ll try” come out of my mouth unless I’m teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you “try” and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can’t make a decision I will tell the truth. “Sorry John. I’m not sure if I will be at your party or not. I’ve got an outstandingcommitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite.”
People respect honesty. So remove the word “try” from your vocabulary.

So don't tell your family and friends that you want to give CAT one more TRY. In the end, You will either make it to the IIMs or you won't.


My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, ” I’m fat. Nobody will like me. I’ll try this diet. I’m not good enough. I’m so stupid. I’m broke, etc. etc.”
If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with onewrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.
But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Try: Presupposes failure.
If: Presupposes that you may not.
Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen.
Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to thingsthat didn’t actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Could Have: Past tense that draws attentionto things that didn’t actually happen but the persontries to take credit as if it didhappen.
Can’t/Don’t: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.


Examples
Toxic phrase: “Don’t drop the ball!” Likely result: Drops the ball Better language: “Catch the ball!”

Toxic phrase: “You shouldn’t watch so much television.” Likely result: Watches more television. Better language: “I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!”


Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.